Hypnosis Self Help - Creating Boundaries
Everyone needs boundaries, from children, pets to adults. Otherwise, we do not know when we have passed a person’s comfort zone. Once someone has pushed past that zone, we feel violated, betrayed, or victimized. And that’s not a pleasant place to be.
Boundaries can be physical, mental and emotional. Have you ever felt that someone had step into your space, they were physically too close and you wanted to back off but didn’t? Have you ever had someone tell you that you didn’t know what you were talking about or feeling? How many times have you said yes when you really wanted to say no? How many times have you stayed silent when you have disagreed with another’s opinion? How many times have you backed down from an argument or disagreement even when you felt you were right?
Most of the time we let down our boundaries because we are afraid of how we will be perceived or received, that we won’t be loved or liked, or that our feelings and opinions are not important. This all stems from poor self-esteem, self-confident, and a general lack of self love.
Your exercise: Take a day, start by repeating a positive affirmation ten times in the morning (you will repeat throughout the day). It may be “I am important, my thoughts and feelings are important.” Then during the day, when you feel your space has been invaded physically, allow yourself to take one step back. Or if you want to say “no”, then say “no” and really mean it. Instead of being silent in a meeting, state your opinion with conviction. The day will be about being true to you. And not worrying about how others will receive you. Though I must tell you, most people will just go on about their business and not be all that concerned. They will just have needed to learn your boundaries. Now family members will probably react a little but they will get over it. And you will still be loved.......
“Assumptions are the termites of relationships.” Henry Winkler
“Give me beauty in the inward soul. May the outward and the inward man be at one.” Socrates.
“If you want to be respected you must respect yourself.” Spanish Proverb.
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